Readiness

On the surface, we show others only pieces of who we can truly be.

Often times, it is easy for others to misread our intentions, mainly because they rarely ask for clarification and just input what they observe into their prebiased processing.

It’s a natural phenomena, and we all fall into doing it.

I am learning to communicate better – slowly and with much effort, as it is confusing while tripping over “thou shalt nots” in my own programming.

What I have found so far in my relationships is that I have been rejected because my prospective partners were not ready for what I offered.

And, part of me has felt that I have needed to hide what I want and need.

You could say, “He didn’t want you” and blame any of their lack of commitment to me being because I am “flawed.” I have certainly borne enough of this concept’s burden as I have watched each man choose to chase “simpler” things.

But, I think we are each made of combinations of tendencies, and our right partner is that someone with whom our own calibrations can blend into their paradigm more smoothly.

In other words, I need a guy who values my capabilities and is not threatened by the truths that I see. In fact, I need someone as eager as I am to see, understand, and desire fashioning better realities.

How will I recognize him, and he me, amid the tangle of so much mixed-messaging?