“Resist ‘adding more fuel to the fire’ – even if it could be perceived as a valid response to do so.”
Category: Psychology
Educated People Know
“When you bring a traumatized child into a safe home that is healthy, there will come a point where the child goes through crisis meltdowns and “fights” against the people and safety around him/her/them.
Many foster parents do not know that what the child needs is continued safe space and inclusive acceptance, yet firm and gentle continued and corrective guidance, because the child’s nervous system must process and get the trauma out of their being.
Unfortunately, the child’s “acting out” often causes caretakers to give up and send the child elsewhere – or the child runs away, says skewed and villifying things about the foster family, and/or does whatever the child feels it must do (often negatively) in order to respond to its body’s fight or flight reactions.
These trauma recallibration need responses blasting back at safer people and environments also happen in adult survivors of abuse and extreme experience situations such as when soldiers return to the ‘safety’ of home after violent combat.
As a society, we need more understanding and strategized methods of support so that we can best help trauma survivors at any age go through this internal-to-external “reorganization process” recallibration, and positively assist them to find ways to identify and obtain progress in ‘normalcy’ reintegration as feels congruent to their own perceptions.”
Thoughts
They try to crowd in
But I must decide
What takes hold
Love’s Warrior
“Huh” To The “Za”
” A day successfully completed.”
Today
“My one day of work…muster, gather, provide.”
Metacognition
Introversion Neurobiology
(This Version Of You – ODESZA ft Julianna Barwick)
(Light Of Day – ODESZA ft. Ólafur Arnalds)
Suspension Of Disbelief
“A process of receptivity that gets disrupted and blocked by effects of trauma and longterm repeat stress-distress reactivation cycles.
And one thing luring and potently addictive about any religion’s benefits – despite often potentially misleading and negative side effects.”
The Psychology Of Why Healthy Love Feels Wrong
Empath As Archetype
For The Love Of Good
“If we keep getting terrorized and beaten upon to give up our sense of rightness, then as the waves pull us farther out to see, what belongs to us by birth must become the prize to reachieve.”
In The Wakes Of Desire
“Being a wave runner requires an understanding of the waves for their own potent and potential energy’s inclinations.
If you fight their force – as when in panic we are often wont to do – they will suck you down or throw you high up to crash into other waves or material obstacles and get tumbled around.
It’s a difficult lesson for the ego to learn to let go of desired control and get a sense of the energy’s surging and pulsing around you.
But if you can flow with waves well long enough, you can catch the perfect path suddenly revealing that shoots you past danger and gives you the ride of your life!”
(Afterglow – INXS)
In Process
Never stand in the way of a man’s progress.
Accomplishment
Having come so far and still working to overcome, it would be great to feel triumphant – rather than being bogged down by the grind of continuous struggle.
(Discover – Davinia Leonne)
Underlying Issues
Pain…loss…regret…
Fledglings
Some find it an easy transition, while others feel the need to fight for their right to flight.
Traumatic Violence
A human Elden noted the other day – which I myself have observed aplenty – that my life patterns keep getting conscripted into this negative cycle of human experience.
I would like to step off from and leave this track behind me.
May it decay into inert elements, reclaimed by the Earth’s natural environment, where things such as iron in rust can serve better as soil nutrients.
Normifying
“Radical Acceptance?”
Another Door
When younger, it is easier to believe in others because one still has not lived so much life as to give up faith in goodness.
That is, if one is very determined.
However, if too much pain over time compounds, inclination to deflect intimacy might increase to keep reason and order sound.
(Trustfall – Pink)
WTF
I could do without some visceral associations.
Perceived Threats
Why, then, do negatives seem to outweigh importance of positives?
Impermanence
I am frequently encountering this sense of.
Today’s Billboard
“When you get tired, learn to rest – not to quit.”
(Way Less Sad – AJR)
(Hanging On – Active Child)
Imposition
Searing pain surrounds parboiling eyes, melting down brain into wondering why I keep pushing and trying to cross superimposed barriers.
Review
The only way out is up.
The only way up is through.
Quiver
Feeling the brain injury getting worse before it (hopefully) gets better.
Glitch
And we
And she
And us
And I
Self Check-In
When hind brain is compressed, I become reactive.
The Need To Emote
I think this is my being’s need to isolate and contract around while expelling absorbed negative energy for deep purging – much like an exorcism.
Hind Brain Scripts
What comes out of the mouth in private self-defense, rallying under pressure of having been recently assaulted, seems to revert to lowest common denominator – resulting in Tasmanian Devil cussing and wild gesticulation expressioning.
Intelligently Expressing
My retention of knowledge is based upon imagery and perceptual relationships.
I’ve been working on conveying my experiences through writing, but transferring directly from processing to speech seems inhibited.
Does this mean that I am by programmed default “nonverbal?”
Is this from head injuries, abuse trauma, and/or having to chameleonize for survival?
The anxiety experienced before and after externally expressing myself certainly seems to ward off attempts to overcome.
Advantage
Instead of freaking out, she let the energy carry her.
Enough, Already!
I do not want to be injured, anymore.
Discouraged
I feel, very much.
Maneuvering
I have learned to even outwit myself.
(Sister Moonshine – Supertramp)
Opting Out
Perhaps the best thing that I can do right now is just say, “No.”
(Strong Enough – Sheryl Crow)
What’s Real?
I think I bolted out of the gate when my support was cut off – and now I am just seeking shelter.
(Lullaby – Wang Chung)
Open Heart Injury
Trying to grow up in society,
I learned vulnerability imposed
And, in fact, it should be exploited.
Having been targeted during COVID
(And beyond, if accurately tallied),
I find it difficult to trust others.
While I share my caring generously,
It is spread out to protect myself
So no one has ability to harm.
Deeper Within
For as much as I am reaching out and overextending to keep and make more connections, I am retreating ever deeper inward, farther away from the Light.
Maybe the Light is actually comprised of darkness, combusting and regenerating, sparking its emittance at such a high rate that we do not see its core is the source.
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