For three years, youngling and I have had it, and worked very hard to subvert it.
It is frightening to us both when we now accidentally escalate, because we have already made so much progress together.
An unfortunate aspect of true healing is that when you at last reach safety, old wounds burst open again so they can finally cleanse and mend.
No one tells you this will be painful and make you doubt your sanity, all over again.
They only set you up for unrealistic expectations that suddenly everything will be better without further effort.
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