About Money

This is a challenging topic to discuss for me because I am not sure if I can explain it well enough for others to understand where I am coming from.

To be straight forward, I think money and having money is wonderful. However, I will not trade my values and morals to get it.

I have always seen the greater worth behind someone’s giving me a gift, for example, yet frequently received projections of implied or direct shame and/or beratement in my upbringing for desiring anything – after I was led to believe I should.

Talk about mixed messaging!

And, I would witness “spoiled rotten” children being over-indulged and clucked and doted over whike given “everything” – yet, when it came to my turn, I was treated as if I was a beggar and unworthy.

This was my reward for being a good, warm-hearted, polite, and generous kid – and explains a bit behind why social media often shows bad behaviors.

To be popular, “desireable,” or successful has been taught as being given to those who walk all over everyone else in the name of claiming their prize.

No wonder society is barely hinged together and broken famiies and broken trust is all around us.

This backwards messaging caused me to have conflicted feelings about receiving gifts or money from anyone, as there also always seemed be tied to it some sort of heavy onus in expectation.

Worst of all is that I was taught that if I desired anything at all, I was greedy, corrupt, and had ill intentions.

These are not my traits, so why would I want to desire anything that tries to associate me with them?

Listen.

Gift giving should be from the heart – with nothing expected but the hope it will give the receiver happiness of joy’s pleasure, and/or render some comfort to lift their day.

If you have money and wish to spend it on someone, if they are receptive and you come to some sort of mutual agreement, there should be nothiing from society or anyone to stand in the way as long as transactions are of a “proper” nature.

Having lost my own family’s stability to divorce cutting everything apart and leaving me with nothing, I went through the hardship of recovering from homelessness while striving to keep my children’s heads above water so they could continue growing peoperly while having no financial stability.

My efforts are a mixed bag of failures and rare successes against great odds – but, honestly, I and my children should not have had to go through any of it.

At this point, I would be glad for the opportunity to be “lifted” and accepted onto “higher ground.”

I have “put in the efforts” and deserve my reward.

Before now, I had never considered choosing a partner based upon money, wealth, or status. I have always prioritized love over material gains.

However, if I were to remarry and have more children, my partner having financial security will be a requirement.

Money, status, and position are important – but not for reasons social media claims. It’s about what these qualifiers represent.

Financial stability ensures ability to weather liss or hardship’s storms. A good reputation of quality of character and the ability to navigate well in society ensures that a man can provide for his mate and loved ones.

Having these established attributes more ensures that a man who invests in marrying and raising children will be more likely to commit to this life path, take it seriously, and ensure uts prosperity.

Therefore, I am looking for a “Master Plan” – “A Man Who Can” – who will take our love to its limits, and Beyond.