“Kind, caring, loving, inclusive, affectionate…
Toxicity calls these endearments ‘too clingy.'”
Category: Male Bonding
(Pieces – Forester)
Looking Back
It would seem that she’d
Had several opportunities
But every man was distant
Whether near or overseas
She couldn’t even call one
Bonded lasting friendship
As truer assessment was
They were acquaintences
That dragged on
Promising more
But never
Delivering
Reparations
How does a good partnership help to heal damage from past negating relationships?
(Title of multiple meanings)
Counter Balance
Saying “it wasn’t your fault”
Does not counter the impact
Of experience as if it had been
(Title of multiple meanings)
Rot
Do I cut it out?
Sear with fire?
Jump into the flames to
Absolve flesh as expire?
What conjured solution
Heals pussed infection
When such a curse
Continues traction?
(Better Broken – Sarah McLachlan)
A-Quittal
She disengaged because she learned that he was still attached, and she would not be a factor to further wedge apart their family.
Why couldn’t he understand this and forgive, rather than blame her?
Feeder Breeders
A woman must become powerful in her own way to successfully navigate forces in this world alone with children of her own.
Is she then required to relinquish this power when a man wishes to join and bond with her?
To accept a man as provider has seemed to imply societally this trade-off.
Yet, what then is to keep the man’s interest after her fire is given to him?
Too frequently, the woman’s offering gets taken for granted as the man then loses interest.
And then he goes after another in pursuit of fresh fire, rather than learning how to restoke in the first woman what his apathy depleted.
(Possibly Maybe – Bjork)
Plucky Hen
As she hefted the onus of recovery
She allowed her mother’s imprint
To settle over her countenance
Warding off weak, angry men
Who would have once
Seen her as desireable
Counter-Man-Ding
Avoiding men her age helped
To subvert ingrained training
By generation undeserving
Propagating violent biases
Which counted against any
Ranking they might’ve had
(Only The Lonely – The Motels)
It’s Like I Told You
“Only the lonrly can play.”
(Motels band song reference)
Pimps
Get you hooked
Then begging
For a taste
(All I Haven’t Said – 38 Special)
Built For Trust, Not Lust
Woman by self cannot easily service
Whereas Man can any time by hand
This was designed for Man to manage
His vitality – not to seed an entire land
And to remind him of his responsibilities
To one woman as heart and soul provider
Duplicity
A Lover will endure
The worst behaviors
Because they believe
In people’s capabilities
Recognizing that when
Someone behaves badly
This does not necessarily
Define their true essence
Often, unfortunately, to
The Lover’s detriment
Marriage Dynamics
Cautionary
In the end, all of his talk
Of logic meant nothing!
And she learned that
Deep down she could
Likely never trust again
As evidenced repeatedly
From those days forward
When it came to promises
Made by men who claimed
To value connection with her
Master & Servant
He had this belief that
Emotions were bad
And so avoided until
Actions capitalized
Negation
Maybe I was beautiful and worthy
And that’s why he didn’t trust me!
(Talking With My Mind – Blue Mask)
Fathering
He could have
Found a way
And stayed
In Dreams
To find out
Who he is
Without
Hiding
(Play with meanings)
Better
“I can choose.”
Male Presence
Helps figure out
What’s best to do
Falters
Thought from overbearing mothers
Yet retrospect, from absent fathers
Obedience
Over while
Underrated
(Play with meanings)
Father Figure
What extent
Influenced?
Blue Eyes
“Animated
& friendly”
Come On
Those understanding
Give of their true self
Do For Me
I’ve been hurt before
Can’t you see that?
I don’t wanna fall apart
But I’m scattered
(Heart To Heart – Kenny Loggins)
Facts Of Life
We grow together
Or we grow apart
(Even It Up – Heart)
Definitively
“Look,” she told him flatly, hiding her compassion, “it doesn’t matter how I felt about you – I’m not getting involved with a married man!”
Hangin’ Up
Defense Mechanisms
Instinctively, I must protect my prize as
Men have always left me compromised.
Incapacities
In mind and spirit’s tenacity
There has not been equality
No matter their ages limitations
Left me in frenzied devastation
Underlying Everything
“Honey, I am older than you…
Why you wanna be with me?”
Brown-Eyed Guys
They have always left me regretting
Whereas blue-eyed gifts dreaming
Three Suitors
One gave everything for his fame
Another simply rose easily up to it
But the third wanted none of it at all
Thus more worthy and better suited
You There
Who are you?
No one as yet
But not because you
Haven’t a Golden Get
But because your focus
Is external not internal
Thus you are
Still imaginary
Crazymaking
Half-truth
Insinuations
Masking
Lies
Attempting
Compromise
Without
Honesty
Distorting
Reality
Corrupting
Sanity
Betraying
Fealty
Without
Clemency
Salvation’s Favor
Did I ever let go of us
In comittment to you?
No – not once
Always I rose
To caustic challenges
Pushing off damages
Only to watch you
Yield and then fold
Have I grown too old if
I say it was not enough
– That when tested you
Gave up gamble’s bluff
Rejecting my heart and
Our love as a past time?
My endurant support
Willfully sacrificed by
Your shaking hands
Clutching fear’s blade
Too late other men’s mouths
Have provided added weight
To belief that a rare woman
Gave to you for safekeeping
What were you thinking
When you called to say
(Almost) that you had
Made a huge mistake?
But the words never
Cleared the air pure
Still unsure of standing
In that treacherous land
Where society squeezes balls
Of a man still adhering to laws
Corrupting and distorting God’s
Truth used as a brutal bludgeon
(Heartbreaker – Pat Benatar)
Vacillation
I do not do well
With ambiguity
Having endured
Master evaders
(My Lovin’ [You’re Never Gonna Get It] – En Vogue)
Shenanigans
“Funny how takers think they can just creep back and take some more.”
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