Category: Male Bonding

“An ex had recently reconnected, picking up where he had left off – as if time and growth made up for damages and losses.

Although she still cared for and wanted the best for him, she knew firsthand that his values were his priority.

Knowing that she would always be low-ranking when it came to society, she abdicated their continuing.”

“A harsh term for men once so valued – but aptly deserved for what I was put through as a result of their choices and behaviors.”

“They say, “If you love something set it free; if it comes back to you, it is yours.’

But I’m not into flat-out abandonment.”

When a guy knows they have me
They disown – discarding worth

Craving the chase rather than
Mundane of dreams in reality

“You make me happy. Can’t you see that in your loving arms is where I want to be?”

And he’d scoure the earth to make her be his accountable, but she’d ever been and kept on waiting for his signal that they could begin and love again.

Having had little positive experience in relationship, he kept hanging back just out of sight, trying to get the courage to approach her.

Her conjurings were always incomplete because she refused to tamper with the will of another.

“I want to be able to make you laugh,” he confided wistfully.

“I can’t just give you my heart, without it being earned,” she replied, which drove his interest further into frenzy.

She knew that if she showed him genuine affection, he would quickly lose interest.

In fact, he was the type to usually reject her, so her strategy was disinterest.

Meanwhile, she felt hollow inside because her heart belonged to another who would not manifest.

And she had to make attempts at “being present in reality.”

But it was fecking gruelling.

There was a man who wanted to love her.

He took her into his arms and gave her warmth.

She said nothing, knowing speech would break the spell.

He projected onto her, made her his savior.

Confided in her while they were undercover.

Told her of his wife and children, and about how he longed for another.

He valued her, protected her because he could fill her with whatever.

She was a vessel – a shell to be conquered.

But she was alone and empty, even with external comforts because he did not know her well.

He did not want her for hersdlf.

He did not give himself to her completely, relegating her to being an outsider.

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(Men projecting at the gym)

I had wanted him
He had wanted me

A perfect union
Until difficulties

Sent one avoiding as
The other addressed

Perspectives dividing
That kept expanding

Until neither could
Relate to the other

Closeness

Commitment

Or Accountability

He wants sex, so bargains with closeness.
She wants closeness, so bargains with sex.

“I had just needed some equal consistency in giving and receiving.”

“In today’s dating scene, love is used like a commodity.

Find a person for your head, another for your heart, and another for your body.

But how, then, can one’s soul be unified when experiencing aspects of self and others as mere fragments?”

“Why would I want to do something if the result will make me ‘drop?’

I don’t know…

There’s a disconnect, there.”

“Guys who flit between females as if they’re a benevolent honey bee.”

“Incompatability of values.”

(Title phrase by Youngling)

“If a man hedges the line about anything – but most importantly, in how he addresses fidelity – this calls into question his ability to speak and act truthfully and responsibly, creating cracks in any trust he tries to keep building.”

A man had been there:
In her room
On her chair
In the bathroom
In her lair
But he wasn’t the one
He was just having fun
And left the cupboard
Bare

“I am a real woman dealing with real life challenges – not some throw away toy available for discarding!”

“If you want to f*** around, this is where I’m standin’!”

Keep quiet, shhhh
For he doesn’t care

To know what heals
And soothes the soul

Otherwise he would
Be there when needed

How to switch tracks
Is where to focus upon

Rather than begging for
Empathy from a stranger

A non-cooperative partner can too easily destroy the structure of home and family.

We talk about the rush
But not about the drop

That comes afterwards
When the bed is empty

And the smell of sweet
Connection’s memories

Linger as the body still
Thrums from sensations

Yet there’s no one there
For bonding aftercare.

“Proven wisdom requires more respect than youthful folly is now being given.”

“How can you even attempt to compare a younger woman’s potential capabilies to a more mature woman’s hard-earned and proven accomplishments?”

People who lie, cheat, and manipulate.

“Only”

Feeling passion, without answer.

Tell you want you want to hear to further their agenda.