Category: Male Bonding

“A partnership of mutual investment in love, growth, and commitment that lasted more than a brief glimpse of paradise made real.”

“In trying to figure out what type of man would be right for me, I would venture to say he would need to be an ambivert like me: capable of wild, external expression, yet also loving the soaking-in of tranquility.

However, still in the equation left unfigured is my freedom.of open self expression and not knowing if the man would find its uniqueness attractive.

Women are expected to hide their wild and rough n’ tough sides, for still, women are expected to be underdeveloped in their complexity.

But my inner world and hidden self expression just keeps on expanding!

And with my natural tendency to self suppress and accommodate around others, I wonder if it is better to stay alone to keep freedom of self expression always an option.”

It was better for her to keep bracing and trying to level further up than for her to reach for and rely upon a man’s crafted illusion.

The reason that she had stayed in a longterm relationship full of neglect was because there had been a medical situation clouding perception of underlying reality.

“I remember when I at last felt his physical strength returning, as he grabbed me and we struggled.

I hadn’t felt him in his body, nor his true presence there for years.

Never having done so before, I hit him firm in his side and against his chest with the flat of my hands, at last sobbing out loud wildly, ” Wake up! Wake UP! WAKE UP!”

And looking into his eyes, I only saw confusion as they were at last coming clear.

Later, I realizsd that he must have been masking himself – hiding from me for all of that time – as if my love had somehow been a threat to his very existence.”

She had felt her heart blossom with pure happiness at having thought that she’d found someone real, again.

But suddenly, she felt things shift between them, and her heart labored under pain of being censured from the equation.

Something was very wrong here.

It then took several months for her to extract herself from the situation, to be left reeling in shock from blanched exposure.

“For me to otherwise stay in a shallow relationship would be addiction under the constant, active threat of rescission.”

Would force the dolls to remove their own hearts before he would play with their strings.

(Content of multiple meanings)

“To be in the position where my children are cherished and doted upon – but not me.”

“No…what you gave me was a recipe for my life being filled again with nightmare fodder!”

“I am not wanted for who I am as an amazing, capable, and loving human being – but for what I can provide and for what others can take from me.

I’d say this amounts to a sh**-ton of fresh negative reinforcement – so why the he** would I want to go get on feeding-frenzy dating sites?!!”

Before she knew it, she was encased tightly within a trap of her own needs, desiring more, while denied the breath and light of true relationship.

(Title of multiple meanings)

She was tired of being strung along.

Upon parting, he encouraged her to go onto dating sites.

(Title of multiple meanings)

At least the traffic was light…

Captivated by the promise of his friendship, she had waited, but considered.

And when she at last accepted, it all turned out to be a ruse.

She hated when people misrepresented.

She had to delete their texts and his phone number in order to stop reaching out because he was never going to reciprocate.

“Intolerable cruelty.”

“I’ve more than paid mine.”

“It was never an option for me to leave him because I was trying to stop the broken lines from our past generations from getting passed on to our children.”

“I think that I have realized that guys are attracted to me because I am independent, so they think they can get away with putting in little or no effort with me.

Therefore, I need to cut off ties with all of that because I absolutely do need connection.

I can’t be anyone’s ‘free ride,’ anymore.”

This was an old ache, not something just waking up and craving – so she had very little patience nor tolerance to give again for another man’s slow-moving growth response.

She needed a man that she could lean on in troubled times, for she would uplift him, naturally and instinctively, as he needed.

Boiling over at the unequal returns, yet expectations that she continue to provide.

She was raised that we survive by partnership and flourish by mutuality.

But having not experienced this in a relationship, maybe it was best to stay distant – and not care to try, anymore.

A male friend told her that her right match wouldn’t be found on the dating sites, but in a coffee shop reading, or some other unique path location/pursuit – which lessened the odds in her mind of their ever meeting.

She’d been stuck on this track for way too long – in fact, for her entire lifetime so far.

Can damage relationships.

“The concept had never occurred to me to partake of this plan of action, yet all signs point to ‘yes, that is what’s happening…’

Why do guys want to put their selves in this position?”

Falling down flat, and then reassessing for better approaches.

Where we meet to exchange time and energy.

(Title play with words)

Can be a real fine thing…

He was too busy to seek her company, and she was too busy to seek his replacement.

“I am not going to “recharge your battery” when you’ll use this energy to pursue your career and other women while ignoring me!”

Helpless women…