Category: Male Bonding

He wants sex, so bargains with closeness.
She wants closeness, so bargains with sex.

“I had just needed some equal consistency in giving and receiving.”

“In today’s dating scene, love is used like a commodity.

Find a person for your head, another for your heart, and another for your body.

But how, then, can one’s soul be unified when experiencing aspects of self and others as mere fragments?”

“Why would I want to do something if the result will make me ‘drop?’

I don’t know…

There’s a disconnect, there.”

“Guys who flit between females as if they’re a benevolent honey bee.”

“Incompatability of values.”

(Title phrase by Youngling)

“If a man hedges the line about anything – but most importantly, in how he addresses fidelity – this calls into question his ability to speak and act truthfully and responsibly, creating cracks in any trust he tries to keep building.”

A man had been there:
In her room
On her chair
In the bathroom
In her lair
But he wasn’t the one
He was just having fun
And left the cupboard
Bare

“I am a real woman dealing with real life challenges – not some throw away toy available for discarding!”

“If you want to f*** around, this is where I’m standin’!”

Keep quiet, shhhh
For he doesn’t care

To know what heals
And soothes the soul

Otherwise he would
Be there when needed

How to switch tracks
Is where to focus upon

Rather than begging for
Empathy from a stranger

A non-cooperative partner can too easily destroy the structure of home and family.

We talk about the rush
But not about the drop

That comes afterwards
When the bed is empty

And the smell of sweet
Connection’s memories

Linger as the body still
Thrums from sensations

Yet there’s no one there
For bonding aftercare.

“Proven wisdom requires more respect than youthful folly is now being given.”

“How can you even attempt to compare a younger woman’s potential capabilies to a more mature woman’s hard-earned and proven accomplishments?”

People who lie, cheat, and manipulate.

“Only”

Feeling passion, without answer.

Tell you want you want to hear to further their agenda.

On the brink of being a lost art.

Why is it so prevalent?

“I’d rather be friends and alone, than alone with intimacy.”

“I’d rather be unattached than bound to a man I cannot trust to be faithful to me.”

“Why would you think your telling me this would make me happy?

Especially since your offer of friendship with me was a lie?”

They may be
Accelerating

But I go
Farther…

Still, they
Are better

Than older men
Who stop trying.

“I am not sure that it is possible that I will find a worthy partner whom I can trust and who will work well with me.

I have just not seen any good candidates in my generation, while I have witnessed the decline of valuing values in our society.”

He’d experienced the damage his mother had done and felt she should live alone.

Then pushed aside his own loving bride, ensuring she, too, would atone.

“It keeps everything in the air when one was never there to comfort me.”

“Do you ever miss me?” he asked, uncertain if he had a right to.

“Of course, I do. All of the time,” she replied. “But, I got my heart, mind, and soul back by breaking things off with you.”

“I’m so done with ‘paying it forward.'”

“I do not like having to walk in it, as if deserving of purgatory.”

“You know those cues a woman looks for to figure out how her man is doing and what he needs – and then, she needs him to, in return, be attuned to her?

Well, every time the cues would come up for reciprocal caring, my ex made sure to avoid them and go in the opposite directoon.”